Al Zylstra

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So, I really want to wear this to the wedding. My husband has threatened to divorce me. It is almost worth it to wear this….

So, after getting to Miramichi after a very long, long, long night, I got Alex all settled in with his daughter and ex-wife. I took off on a solo trip to Fredericton. IRIS has 160 locations across Canada with 1 location in the Maritimes: Fredericton!

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Located in a beautiful part of town, the IRIS is well laid out and very inviting

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I had a very constructive meeting with the staff there and we had the best time talking about the Eyecare Benefits Program I am managing.

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I had so much fun on this day – even though it was technically, my vacation. We will do so much with this group. I can’t wait.

So, after having our connecting flight from Toronto to Moncton cancelled, we were able to reschedule our flight to Moncton but it doesn’t leave until 9:15. We have to be out of our hotel at noon. So, we are going to take a shuttle to the airport, check in our luggage and then take the train to downtown Toronto.

We will hang out there for a few hours, take the train back to the airport and wait for our plane. Actually, looking forward to being in Toronto for the day. Haven’t been here since 2000. Pictures to follow…..

So, we made it to the Gay Villagr at Church and Wellesley. Yay. Had a blast watching the karaoke drag shows.

So, this is the second time we have traveled with Air Canada in the last 12 months and this is the second time they have lost our luggage. I cannot fathom how they keep doing this!

So, after a whirlwind of excitement from the night before – connecting flight from Toronto to Moncton was cancelled, rebooked the next available flight, adjusting car rentals, booking a hotel for Toronto, adjusting our car reservation and generally trying (and succeeding) to stay calm, we made it to the airport.

Stay tuned for further developments.

So, as you know, my dad passed away in 2003, my sister in 2015 and my mom passed this year. Their final resting spot has been completed

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I think all would approve of the designs.

So, two weeks ago, I had the opportunity to participate in a Dragon Boat Regatta in Steveston, BC. A regatta is a scaled down version of what the Canadian International Dragon Boat Festival is. It has fewer racers, smaller festival and this year, no entertainment. So, I was not sure what I was going to be doing.

The organizers needed responsible adults (me? Responsible? Sheesh!)

So, I was put in charge of liquor sales. Somehow, I was pretty sure I knew what I was doing but, wow! Talk about crazy! We started selling tickets at 11:00. We had to I.D. everyone to make sure that they were of legal drinking age. We then had to sell them drink tickets and put a wrist band on the drinkers. Anyone without a wrist band couldn’t drink. We spent a lot of time putting wrist bands on people!

I think we sold over $4,000 in tickets – A pretty crazy day, to be sure. I finished selling tickets at 6:00 pm and I was EXHAUSTED. But, I had so much fun. No responsibilities for chasing down performers, getting stage crew or organizing. I just had to sit and sell.

Can’t wait for next year….

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fun day at East Side Rerides with one of my most favourite people

I am so sad now. She was such a lovely, gentle bunny.

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So, let me start by stating that I have been in a long term monogamous relationship, married to my amazing husband, Alex since 2003 when we got married.

That being said, I need to make a confession: I have been carrying on a torrid love affair with Mouse, Mary Ann, Brian, Anna Madrigal, Shauna, Jake, Ben, DeeDee, the Twins, Wren, Harrison and a host of others for DECADES.

In case you have NO idea who I am talking about, I am referring to the cast of characters from Armistad Maupin’s “Tales of the City”.

It was 1987, and I had been in Vancouver for just over a year. One of my soon-to-be best friends in the whole world, Elaine took me on an adventure to downtown Vancouver to a little hole-in-wall bookstore called “Little Sisters” on the top floor of a converted house on Thurlow Street.

It was one of my first steps out in the world as a gay man. Until that point, I was, shall we say, “semi-Closeted”. I wasn’t really out but, I was taking those first steps out in the world.

We got to Little Sisters and we climbed the rickety stairs to the top floor. I walked in and found Nirvana! Books about people like ME were EVERYWHERE! I was giddy with excitement. So, I started wandering the aisles checking out a variety of books, magazines and the like.

I was fairly poor at this time, so I automatically gravitated over to the “discount” bin. There, sitting regally at the top of the pile was this book:

I had never hear of Armistead Maupin, but, the clerk behind the counter looked at me and smiled. He told me that the book in my hands would change my world. So, I paid the $1.95 for it and stuffed it in a brown paper bag the clerk handed me.

The very next day was my day off and so I made a big mug of tea, settled on the sofa and proceeded to tear through the store of Mary Ann Singleton meeting Anna Madrigal, Michael Tolliver, Mona Ramsay, Brian Hawkins and a host of new found friends. This story captivated me like no other book had before or since.

It was a contemporary story. It was taking place in San Francisco (a city I would eventually get to visit- I was DEVASTATED when I learned that Barbary Lane didn’t exist).

But, I fell in love that day. I fell in love with all of these characters and more. Upon finishing the story, I called Little Sisters to see if they had any other novels by Mr. Maupin. He had written his first novel in 1978 and so, there were not one, two but THREE additional books and they had them in stock! I was elated!

I BEGGED the clerk to hold them for me until I could get down there. The next chance was not until my next day off which was 5 days away. The clerk, whose name, I should remember but don’t, agreed to put them aside for me.

My next day off, I was down there and gathered up my three newest companions and headed for home. This time, rather than devouring the stories in an afternoon, I forced myself to ration the tales. Two chapters a day! That was it! It was HELL but, I was able savour the stories for much longer.

The stories filled me with delight, joy, fear, anger and love. What more can you ask from books?

Then, subsequently, two more chapters which kept me going for a while. I wanted MORE.

It wasn’t until 1993 that PBS embarked on a brave experiment and created the TV Series that made me fall in love all over again. The people from the books were made flesh and I was overjoyed.

The cast were EXACTLY who I pictured in my mind as I read the stories. Olympia Dukakis, Laura Linney and the rest shone as they were meant to.

After the series had finished its run, I RAN back to the books and re-read them voraciously. I needed more.

Then, in 1998, BBC ran the second series: More Tales of the City. They reunited most of the cast from the original series and it made my year

Subsequently in the 2000’s, Armistead wrote three more novels about the crew from Barbary Lane.

When I finished the final story, I thought that I could go on happily knowing that everyone was still alive and well.

Fast forward to this year: Netflix had produced a new chapter in the Tales of the City! The cast were reassembled with new and fascinating characters brought to life.

It was the culmination of everything that helped me become who I am today.

I didn’t binge watch the series. I was sorely tempted but, made myself watch them one episode a week just to make everything last. I was not disappointed. And as much as I want to give you all the details, you will just need to watch it yourself.

There were scenes of great joy, scenes of great anxiety, scenes of abject sadness and scenes of introspection.

I am thrilled to have been allowed to journey with these wonderful characters.

Thank you Armistead Maupin! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You made my own journey a lot more bearable having you along for the ride.